LOVE BEGINS WITH YOU

LOVE BEGINS WITH YOU

Love is gentle, love is kind , love is beyond what the eye can see, it’s an unwavering connection that stands against all seasons of life.

With that being said, the greatest love is the kind we give ourselves. The kind of love that forgives our past mistakes, that repairs our brokenness, that strengthens us and that makes us look for a deeper connection with everything we do.

How can you love another when you don’t love yourself?

How can you give love when you doubt yourself and capabilities?

How can you give love when you put yourself down and thus increase your self doubt?

How can you give love when you feel you’re not deserving of love?

How can you identity what is love, when you’re busy pleasing everyone else instead?

How can you give love when you hide your true self for the fear of being hurt?

How can you find love when you relate love to material things?

Loving yourself means discipline, self acceptance of your strengths and weaknesses, appreciating the priceless moments that makes you smile, listening to your inner voice and relating to people the way you will like to be treated.

Understanding being vulnerable and walking away when a situation doesn’t suit your needs is strength and not a weakness. This realisation only comes from loving yourself.

Love will make you vulnerable and strong at the same time. You can’t accept love without pain, they go hand in hand. However how you see ‘pain’ is based on your interpretation.

Loving yourself allows you to be selective with the kind of people you want around you. People that compliments your personality, your vulnerability and help you grow each day.

Loving yourself means you can only love a selected few and tolerate others if you want to. This means you’re exerting your power of choice.

Loving yourself means you have a deeper understanding you’re not meant to be loved back by all and by the same token others will also tolerate you or avoid you altogether.

Loving yourself means you’re at peace with yourself and connected to your spiritual self.

Loving yourself means maturity and understanding the complexities of humans. A realisation that exposes you to the strengths and weaknesses of others, which you can choose to love, tolerate or walk away.

Loving yourself means you don’t seek revenge on people who have betrayed you. The experience should teach you exactly what you don’t want and seek what makes you complete.

Loving yourself means you’re responsible for your actions and reactions. Understanding whatever decision you make comes with a sacrifice. A sacrifice you’re willing to give and not coerced to giving.

Understanding your physical self will attract all sorts, however your inner beauty will keep those that are meant to be to stay in your life.

The realisation that the roots of the kind of love you want lies solely with you, gives you the freedom to love in your own way.

Why not begin the self love train by treating yourself to an amazing recipe below;

Happy Valentine’s Day folks❤️

Rustic Fisherman’s soup recipe

Enjoy this easy to follow rustic Fisherman’s soup recipe packed with natural flavours. Use any firm white Fish of your choosing and about 10g of salted fish in the absence of fish sauce.

Ingredients

300g of de-scaled and gutted Tilapia

300g of Red Mullet

300g of Wild Seabass

200g of shelled Prawns

1 tablespoonful of Coconut oil

2 large Onions

3 cloves of Garlic

2 Habanero chillies

150g of Garden eggs or Aubergines

1 tablespoonful of fish sauce or Lemon juice

Salt to taste

Spice mix

20g of Ginger

1 medium Onion

2 cloves of Garlic

1 tablespoonful of Aniseed

2 African Nutmeg or a pinch of grated Nutmeg (optional)

1 teaspoonful of Guinea Peppers (optional)

1 tablespoonful of smoked Paprika

Salsa mix

1 large diced Tomato

30g of chopped spring Onions

20g of chopped Parsley

Half a medium sized charred and diced Red Pepper

To serve

Best served with Ciabatta or Sourdough bread.

Watch how to prepare this recipe below;

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INSPIRING AFRICAN TABLE SETTING IDEAS

INSPIRING AFRICAN TABLE SETTING IDEAS

‘Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else’s opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation’.

Oscar Wilde

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Finding reasons to host dinner parties, lunches etc in the comforts of your home should not be difficult.

Coming up with obscure reasons to host my guests gives me the inspiration to display my heritage. The conversation always gears towards knowing the history of my country (Ghana) and food.

With years of experience organising such private events, I have compiled a few videos covering table setting, how to set an African inspired table and how to include your heritage and personalise your table setting for the festive season.

After watching the videos were you inspired?

Tell me a bit about your culture and what pieces you will incorporate into your table setting.

Please your comments below with your answers and thoughts.

HOMEMADE COUSCOUS & JOLLOF

HOMEMADE COUSCOUS & JOLLOF

The time on the clock said 05:30hrs as I sipped my black coffee and started researching about Millet Couscous. The constant request for Brukina (a Ghanaian drink made from Millet and Milk) by my subscribers inspired my early rise.

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The outcome of my research meant one had to use CousCous Millet and  not the Millet in its natural form. I could place an order for the Millet Couscous however that will delay my filming for another week.

I had all the ingredients needed to make my own Millet Couscous apart from the Muslin cloth needed for steaming.

During my childhood Mum made a dish known as ‘Korklui’ where the fermented Corn dough was turned into granules using a flat wooden sieve known as ‘Agbadze’ and boiled into a porridge.

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I knew  Agbadze (as known in the Ewe language) was  used in Ghana and Togo, however I was curious to know if any other country also used it and it’s local name. My question read…

‘Good morning folks. What would you call this in your local language and in English? 😜 Do you use this in your country? Tell me more.

*Responses*

Elibri

*I guess it can be called Sranui*. ‘Ewe language from the Ho area of Ghana’ as explained by Amadebrah

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*We call it Agbaedzea in Angola and we use it for sieving’

Freda Muyambo (CEO of Tarts & Crumble based in Nigeria).

**Used for winnowing? I guess it is called a winnower or winnow’**

Lyon

**Used by the Ga people for the preparation of Kpokpoi**

Chayilediyie

*It’s called Ukeng in my dialect (Akwa Ibom State in Nigeria)**

Thank you folks for your contribution to my research. In the name of sticking to the recipe for the Millet Couscous  find the list of ingredients below;

680g of Millet flour

227g of Rice flour

200ml of cold water

 

Jollof

250g of Jollof stew

340g of Millet Couscous

METHOD

Watch how to make your own Gluten free Couscous below;

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SLOW COOKED LAMB SHANK IN MUSKMELON SEEDS ( WREWRE SOUP RECIPE).

SLOW COOKED LAMB SHANK IN MUSKMELON SEEDS ( WREWRE SOUP RECIPE).

WreWre (Muskmelon or Cantaloupe seeds) soup is rich in Vitamin A, C, Folic acid potassium to mention but a few nutritional contents..

It has no fat, cholesterol or saturated fat and helps boost one’s immune system especially during the cold months.

Wrewre (as it’s locally known in Ghana) can be used for various recipes and it can be found in some Indian cuisine.

The taste is similar to Groundnut or Peanut soup, however it has a slightly delicate nutty flavour to Peanuts.

Stay tuned for more recipes using this nutrient dense seeds.

For a healthier soup use leaner meat, fish or seafood.

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INGREDIENTS

80g of Wild Melon seeds (WreWre seeds) Readily available at most African grocers or online.

4 Lamb shanks

1 tablespoonful of Organic cold pressed Coconut oil

60g of Tomato purée

1 large Tomato

1 large Onion

2 litres of Water

200g of smoked Fish (optional) or 1 teaspoonful of powdered dried Shrimp

2 large Aubergines

10 whole Green Chillies

Salt to taste

 

SPICE BLEND

30g of Ginger

1 large Onion

3 Green chillies

2 cloves of Garlic

1 teaspoonful of Aniseed

 

Watch how prepare this flavour packed WreWre soup below;

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VLISCO ME ALL DAY

VLISCO ME ALL DAY

Imagine having a bad day and reading an email that changes your mood for the better. What bad day? Please ‘bad day’ my appointment with you is over, I’m busy filling my head with good thoughts ooh!

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The email acknowledged and praised my sense of creativity including my style and an offer to visit Ghana briefly for a campaign shoot. Did I read ‘billboards in over 6 African countries, magazines etc…’ Mama where are you? I’ll surprise her instead.

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My last visit to Ghana was to bury my little brother hence this email was a welcome distraction from my grief.

The realisation of seeing Mum again made me happy as I impatiently counted the days to immerse myself into this incredible experience.

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Vlisco Group was founded in Helmond, The Netherlands in 1846 and produces fashion forward African Wax prints. Vlisco fabrics are an integral part in most African homes particularly in the Central and Western part of Africa. I grew up knowing about Vlisco from my Mum as it was her favourite in terms of design and quality.

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Mums vintage African fabric pieces are from Vlisco and they still look new (I  rummage through her wardrobe and wear them whenever I’m in Ghana).

Vlisco Group’s brand portfolio consists of four brands: Vlisco, Woodin, Uniwax and GTP..

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INTRODUCING OUR CAMPAIGN STARS |

Fafa Gilbert @ndudu_by_fafa puts Ghanaian cuisine on the world map via social media. Coming from the Volta region in Ghana but living in London, she skillfully interweaves both cultures in her recipes as well as in her unique fashion approach.

Fashion by @lumierewoman.

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The positive energy  on set was electric as each creative individual expressed themselves through the entire shoot. I’ll talk more about this later in another post; including the two amazing ladies I worked with during this campaign.

The theme for the campaign was ‘NEW BOLD ROMANTICS’ and they certainly made me feel like a ‘Queen’.

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Link below to purchase the fabrics directly from their website.

https://shop.vlisco.com/en/all-fabrics?collection_code=760

The designers chosen for my outfits were Lumiere Woman and Sadia Sanusi, Hair by Kush Taylor, Jewellery by Chyba Jewellery, Make up by Woena Makeup Artistry, Photographs  by Matthew Miziolek with Creative Directors Grietje Schepers and Sanne Huijsmans.

To be continued……

All photos and videos are by the Vlisco.

 

 

 

 

 

BIRYANI LAMB KOFTA RECIPE

BIRYANI LAMB KOFTA RECIPE

Do you need a quick and flavour packed dish for dinner? Why not try this Biryani spice mix infused Lamb Kofta and enjoy it with Cumin rice. Find both recipes on my YouTube channel, ‘Ndudu by Fafa’.

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INGREDIENTS

350g minced Lamb

2 tablespoonful of Biryani spice mix

Salt to taste

Your preferred oil for frying (50ml)

300g of natural Yoghurt

1 fried thinly sliced Onions

30g of chopped Coriander

1 teaspoonful of Biryani spice mix

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METHOD

Watch how to make this easy to follow recipe below on my YouTube channel, ‘Ndudu by Fafa’,

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BUTTERED CUMIN RICE RECIPE

BUTTERED CUMIN RICE RECIPE

The first time I had this rice was at a friends wedding. I could not get over how fragrant the rice was and its taste. I asked for the recipe from his Mum and I had to emulate it.

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The secret was using Ghee, which is clarified butter. I decided to use buerre noisette (caramelised butter) instead cause I like to infusions.

Naturally I made my own butter from double cream as shown below;

INGREDIENTS

250g of Basmati Rice with a minimum age of 10yrs

30g of butter

3-4 pods of Balck Cardamom

1 Cinnamon stick

3-4 Green Chillies

3 Bay leaves

1 heaped tablespoonful of Cumin seeds

120 ml of water

20g of chopped Parsley to garnish

Salt to taste

 

METHOD

Watch how to prepare this fragrant Cumin Rice also known as Jeera Rice below on my YouTube channel, ‘Ndudu by Fafa’;

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BAMBARA BEANS (NUTS) CASSOULET

BAMBARA BEANS (NUTS) CASSOULET

Bambara nuts or beans originates from the Bambara people of West Africa.

‘Bambara’ means ‘unbeliever’ as history dictates the ethnic group resisted  Islam when it was introduced in 1854 by Tukulor conqueror, El had Umar Tal.

The Bambara ethnic group are spread across West Africa ( in countries such as Guinea, Senegal, Mali and Burkina Faso) particularly now in Mali where they make up the majority of the  Mande ethnic group.

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Bambara pods ripens underground (just like Peanuts), hence they’re referred to as nuts, even though it’s popularly known as Bambara Beans.

Bambara beans / nuts do have a high protein content and it’s perfect to enjoy as a snack or a meal. In Ghana, Bambara Beans are slow cooked with the inclusion of Sugar, Spices and served with a spicy Plantain Pancake known as Tatale.

BAMBARA BEANS & TATALE RECIPE

This recipe is inspired by the French Cassoulet and of course I have added my own twist. In the absence of Bambara beans try using Chickpeas or Cannelloni beans which are readily available in most supermarkets.

INGREDIENTS

300g of Bambara nuts

250g of Smoky Spicy Salsa (Raw Pepper)

5 Pettie Belle Chillies or any Green Chillies

3 strands of Grains of Selim or Star Anise

20g of sliced Ginger

2.25 litres of water or Chicken stock

3 Bay leaves

6 Chipolatas or any Sausage that’s available to you. Better still try using Goat Meat.

2 tablespoonful of Olive oil

2 tablespoonful of Coconut oil

1 teaspoonful of blended Green chillies, Onion and Garlic.

1 teaspoonful of a Ginger, Onion and Aniseed blend.

1 teaspoonful of Thyme or 4 leaves of Ghanaian Basil

1 thinly sliced Onion

Optional diced charred Red Peppers, Parsley and Mint.

1 teaspoonful of Lime or Lemon juice

Salt to taste

METHOD

Watch how to prepare this creative and easy to follow recipe below including Tatale and other Beans recipes.

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