Love is gentle, love is kind , love is beyond what the eye can see, it’s an unwavering connection that stands against all seasons of life.

With that being said, the greatest love is the kind we give ourselves. The kind of love that forgives our past mistakes, that repairs our brokenness, that strengthens us and that makes us look for a deeper connection with everything we do.

How can you love another when you don’t love yourself?

How can you give love when you doubt yourself and capabilities?

How can you give love when you put yourself down and thus increase your self doubt?

How can you give love when you feel you’re not deserving of love?

How can you identity what is love, when you’re busy pleasing everyone else instead?

How can you give love when you hide your true self for the fear of being hurt?

How can you find love when you relate love to material things?

Loving yourself means discipline, self acceptance of your strengths and weaknesses, appreciating the priceless moments that makes you smile, listening to your inner voice and relating to people the way you will like to be treated.

Understanding being vulnerable and walking away when a situation doesn’t suit your needs is strength and not a weakness. This realisation only comes from loving yourself.

Love will make you vulnerable and strong at the same time. You can’t accept love without pain, they go hand in hand. However how you see ‘pain’ is based on your interpretation.

Loving yourself allows you to be selective with the kind of people you want around you. People that compliments your personality, your vulnerability and help you grow each day.

Loving yourself means you can only love a selected few and tolerate others if you want to. This means you’re exerting your power of choice.

Loving yourself means you have a deeper understanding you’re not meant to be loved back by all and by the same token others will also tolerate you or avoid you altogether.

Loving yourself means you’re at peace with yourself and connected to your spiritual self.

Loving yourself means maturity and understanding the complexities of humans. A realisation that exposes you to the strengths and weaknesses of others, which you can choose to love, tolerate or walk away.

Loving yourself means you don’t seek revenge on people who have betrayed you. The experience should teach you exactly what you don’t want and seek what makes you complete.

Loving yourself means you’re responsible for your actions and reactions. Understanding whatever decision you make comes with a sacrifice. A sacrifice you’re willing to give and not coerced to giving.

Understanding your physical self will attract all sorts, however your inner beauty will keep those that are meant to be to stay in your life.

The realisation that the roots of the kind of love you want lies solely with you, gives you the freedom to love in your own way.

Why not begin the self love train by treating yourself to an amazing recipe below;

Happy Valentine’s Day folks❤️

Rustic Fisherman’s soup recipe

Enjoy this easy to follow rustic Fisherman’s soup recipe packed with natural flavours. Use any firm white Fish of your choosing and about 10g of salted fish in the absence of fish sauce.


300g of de-scaled and gutted Tilapia

300g of Red Mullet

300g of Wild Seabass

200g of shelled Prawns

1 tablespoonful of Coconut oil

2 large Onions

3 cloves of Garlic

2 Habanero chillies

150g of Garden eggs or Aubergines

1 tablespoonful of fish sauce or Lemon juice

Salt to taste

Spice mix

20g of Ginger

1 medium Onion

2 cloves of Garlic

1 tablespoonful of Aniseed

2 African Nutmeg or a pinch of grated Nutmeg (optional)

1 teaspoonful of Guinea Peppers (optional)

1 tablespoonful of smoked Paprika

Salsa mix

1 large diced Tomato

30g of chopped spring Onions

20g of chopped Parsley

Half a medium sized charred and diced Red Pepper

To serve

Best served with Ciabatta or Sourdough bread.

Watch how to prepare this recipe below;

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